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 Why do we care so much about the opinions of others, even those who are just strangers?

We can analyze every look and word that comes our way, looking for clues that we have been judged positively or negatively. We always put others first, which leaves us open to being exploited and belittled. We are not expressing our true nature, we are losing the connection with our core essence.

We burn ourselves out trying to be cool enough with friends, hard enough at work, attractive enough with a partner, or generally successful enough to feel valued by others.

To feel accepted is an almost universal human desire. After all, we evolved as a group to better survive. We must then earn the trust and respect of our peers.

The need to belong is in our DNA. But sometimes this need is central and what others think of us matters more than what we think of ourselves. We accept the status quo because everyone around us is doing it. Our actions, appearances and lives are shaped by how we think others perceive us. What would my colleagues think if I spoke up? Are these people talking behind my back? If I do this job, what will my friends and family think? Today we are going to get to the bottom of this.

Today is the last day we lead a life dictated by others

The only reason we care what other people think of us is because we give them the power to define who we are ... probably because we don't know ourselves well enough and don't understand ourselves. … Lack of self-confidence stems from a deep belief that we are not good enough. Our beliefs about our self-esteem may have been influenced by past experience, the way we were raised or how we were conditioned and programmed by our outside world. Either way, our current level of confidence is determined by this deeper belief system we have about ourselves.

When we awaken to nature, to discover our true potential and connect with our higher selves, we can see the world from a much higher perspective.

Here are these 7 key ideas to stop worrying about what people think:

1. Get to know yourself

What do you really like? What do you really want? Do you make choices about your career, relationships, and hobbies because you want them or because they will please or impress others?

Allow yourself to try new things and ask yourself, "What could I pursue or appreciate if I wasn't so worried about being judged?"

One exercise you can do to reconnect with your inner beauty is to name 10 qualities about yourself that you love and are proud of, 5 reasons you are really good, and 3 ways you have been of service to others, including somehow.

2. Let go - you don't have to be perfect

If you care deeply about how others think you are, you become obsessed with perfection and whatever other people want you to be. It creates a disconnection from your true self, which can lead to stress, anxiety, isolation, and even depression. It can be hard not to feel the feeling that if you are successful, you will be loved and admired. But this is an unsuccessful pursuit, not only because perfection is an illusion, but also because what people think of you has more to do with them than with you.

3. Keep things in perspective

It is said that people would care much less about what others think of them if they knew how much others think of them. And it's true: everyone already has enough to occupy their minds and also have their own insecurities. If you're worried about how you meet someone you've just met, keep in mind that they are probably doing the same.

4. Connect with people who help you remember who you really are

Find your tribe. Somewhere there are people who can relate to you and appreciate you for who you are. Don't waste time trying to hold on to those who expect you to conform to their wishes and desires. Cultivate authenticity and find those who you are meant to be with. Because true belonging only happens when we present our authentic and imperfect identity to the world. Our sense of belonging can never be greater than our level of self-acceptance.

5. Question your thinking

We tend to have negative thought patterns that can adversely affect our mood or behavior. For example, we can assume the worst, or filter out the good in a situation and only pay attention to the bad. Or we can over-generalize or jump to conclusions. Pay attention to your thoughts and question them, you may find that what bothers you is only in your mind.

6. Allow yourself to be vulnerable

It can be terrifying to go against the grain, speak out, take a risk, or be frowned upon. But decide what matters to you, trust yourself and go for it. We don't always grow up playing it safe; we grow by allowing ourselves to take a chance to fail.

7. Be your own friend

It's a harsh reality, but you can never get everyone to love you no matter what you do. Look at the bright side: no one else can do it either. So accept the conflicts that will inevitably arise when you realize that you haven't made a connection with someone, and instead focus on one goal that will instead lead you to the kind of person you want to be: learn to yourself. like !