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Most of us care too much about what other people think. I'm going to talk to you today about why this behavior is not healthy, and what can be done to combat this need for social validation.

“Worrying is a waste of time. All it does is steal your joy and keep you busy doing nothing. "- Lionel Willard

Getting the approval of others is perfectly normal until you compromise your health and happiness in the process. You develop a mistaken view of reality by offering your self-esteem to the opinions of others; which can put you in a constant state of vulnerability.

In order to stop worrying so much about what other people think, it’s time to develop a value system that is not dependent on others every step of the way.

So How can you stop fearing what other people think of you?

1. Most people don't think of you

Forget what other people are thinking today, because chances are they won't think of you anyway.

If you feel like you are the center of attention, understand that this perception is nothing but fiction created by your imagination. It is your own fears and inner insecurities that create this illusion.

In reality, the problem is that you are the judge.

2. Recognize that validation from others is an obstacle to your happiness.

Take some time to understand how your thoughts about what other people think of you are influencing your life.

Think about situations where you feel criticized, and identify the triggers and responses these situations provoke in your mind. Next, identify a new, more appropriate behavior that will provide a more beneficial response.

Every time you interrupt automatic behavior and react differently, you are reprogramming your brain to think more effectively.

3. Be comfortable with not knowing what other people think

Some problems, like not knowing what other people think about you, aren't really meant to be solved. It could be that you are simply liked or hated because you have triggered an association in the person's mind that reminds them of someone they loved or hated in the past that has absolutely nothing to do with it. you.

4. Refocus your attention on what matters

People think what they want to think. You can't control them. No matter how carefully you choose your words and no matter what your manners, there is always a great chance that your words will be misinterpreted or distorted.

But what really matters is how you see yourself. When making big decisions, get in the habit of staying true to your values ​​and beliefs. Never be ashamed to do what feels right.

5. Be yourself

Express your point of view even if your voice is shaking. Be cordial, but don't necessarily meditate before saying each word.

Put aside your concern for what others might think of you. Let the consequences unravel naturally. You will notice that most of the time people will not be offended or irritated by your words.